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Tips for communication during divorce and when co-parenting

During divorce and child custody proceedings, effective communication is critical. It’s essential to manage interactions to minimize conflict and support clear understanding.

Remember these tips to guide communication during this challenging period and into your co-parenting “era.”

Remain professional

Maintain a composed and respectful demeanor in all interactions with your ex. Treat discussions as you would in a professional setting. Keep your focus on clear and respectful communication. This approach helps in managing emotions and keeping conversations constructive.

Stick to points related to the current situation

While it might be tempting to let emotions about the things that ended the marriage dictate how future discussions unfold, doing that won’t resolve anything. Focus discussions on the immediate issues at hand. Avoid bringing up past grievances or unrelated topics, as doing so may derail conversations and increase tension.

Be careful what you say to others

Be mindful of your conversations with mutual acquaintances, family members and especially your children. Avoid speaking negatively about the other party. All of the comments you make can easily circulate and impact the legal process or your child’s well-being. This caution extends to social media. Remember that anything you say there is permanent because people may screenshot things, so the survive even if you delete it.

Use written communication if necessary

If verbal communication becomes too charged or unproductive, switch to written forms like email or text messages. This will record your exchanges and allow you to carefully consider your words before responding. This also takes the guesswork out of determining exactly what was said and agreed upon.

Set conflict resolution methods

Agree on a method to resolve disputes, whether it’s mediation, counseling or working with a mutually trusted third party. Having a predefined method for resolving conflicts can help manage disagreements more effectively and constructively.

Implementing these communication strategies can significantly aid in navigating the complexities of divorce and child custody, helping to create a more amicable and productive environment for all parties involved.